Aita for losing my bestfriend over a scholarship?
apologies if this is a long one i just really need to vent it all out
i (24 f) had a friend (25 f) , lets call her Mary. Me and mary went to art college together and basically did everything together for the whole 5 years of school and were pretty close. Flash forward to graduation year (2023), we both find this amazing government funded scholarship to learn animation for 9 months (they even give u a monthly allowance and all) where industry professionals teach the subjects and in the end we get hired by studios, and that was obviously amazing for us!!
the catch was there was an iq test that involved alot of maths (you had to pass that before you even got to the portfolio bit of the application) and we were pretty much both had elementary level math skills lmao so we obviously had to really prepare for that test and we wasted no time.
I helped her, gave her all my notes, explained whatever she didn't understand..etc and she did the same to me and it was going pretty well if you ask me. Her test was before mine, so i wished her good luck and kept on studying for mine, when she was done i asked her how she did and she said she did okay (not great but okay). Then it was time for my test and i didn't do very well but i still had hope.
She texted me right after my test and asked if i passed and i answered that i didn't know how i did yet but i don't think i did, so she said "no check the site now! the results come out right after the exam" so i ran to the site to check my result and as the site was loading i asked her how she did and she told me to just check my results first, Finally the site loaded and i failed my test and didn't get in.
I told her the news and asked how she did but she said her results didn't come out yet (???) for some reason i brushed it off at the time and just wished her good luck and went to grieve my failure lol
next day comes around and i check on her to see if she passed so atleast we could celebrate one of us making it into the scholarship but she never replied which in turn made me get worried that she might have also failed and was upset about it so i waited a few more days and asked if she was even okay and she just replied that she was fine. I asked once more if she passed her test and she never replied or returned any of my texts ever again.
I decided to save whatever shred of dignity i had left and decided not to text her and that she'll text me when she's ready but she never even reached out again
Fast forward to 2024, I apply again for the scholarship (spoiler: i actually got in this year!!) and while i do that i see the posters for the graduation animation films of the last batch and i just look through them to see what those amazing artists did and lo and behold i see her name on one of the posters and learn that she actually got in.
I'm obviously happy for her and i wouldn't have ever felt jealous or wished any harm upon her but i just can't for the life of me figure out what went wrong or why she did this (5 years of friendship just down the drain) and sometimes i even get the urge to text her and ask why she did this and if she's doing okay but I just know she won't respond to my texts...Aita? did i do anything wrong?