Can men be with a hoe?

Me (22F) and my partner (22M) have been together nearly 5 years. The relationship has always been bad as I am a woman of low value and a high body count and I lied to get him into the relationship. We are four years down and I have also done hoe things in the relationship that I have stopped now and he chose to forgive me. I went to therapy and realised this was due to my low self worth, self esteem and having no self respect. As I want marriage and children I realise these are things I have to change, my mum was not a good role model and did not teach me the right things and I was also SA’d by my father, not an excuse for my antics but I guess I wasn’t taught the right things. Anyway, anytime we argue he still calls me a hoe and he says “once a hoe always a hoe” and I feel like sometimes why am I even loyal if he still thinks of me as a hoe anyway? He tells me men find it hard to respect hoes so I am just wondering will this relationship ever work? I really want a future with someone and tell him if he can’t accept me he should just leave but he doesn’t as we live together and he moved 200 miles away from his family to live with me. Why would one do such a thing for a hoe? I am so confused and would really appreciate some advice. We have a holiday in December but after this I am thinking of ending things for good or am I over reacting ?