AIO or was this a dv joke?
Context: In 8th grade I use to date this boy and he would consistently put his hand on me. Now I don’t dwell on it too much bc I don’t think about it, I shoved it in the back of my mind bc I’m not sure it even counts since I was young(14). I’ve been dating her on and off for 4 years and rn we’re just friends and both 23. When we were 22, we had a deep conversation about things we regret in relationships and my #1 was letting someone put their hands on me. I told her the events that I still remember occurring my whole 8th grade year. Which insists of how he once punched me so hard I thought he dislocated my jaw bc I couldn’t open my mouth to tell him to stop bc he immediately went to choking; how we both got sent to an office for two different reasons but ended up arguing and then he took his bead bracelets off, wrapped it around his knuckles and hit me in my forehead and I started bleeding; the time he got mad I wasn’t talking to him and he squeezed my boobs and didn’t let go even after I was on the ground screaming. Then little things like how he pushed me into brick walls, snatch me up, slapped me. All of this happened outside when we were walking home(excluding the office one). I’ll admit that when I was opening up about everything I did laugh and she laughed w me but even then at the end of the conversation I remember telling her “yeah no, I’ll always draw the line at abuse. I would never let anyone else put their hands on me” idk why I was laughing when telling her the stories. I know I meant it when I said it was my biggest regret and I never wanna go through that again. I still can’t remember everything he did but ik it was way more than that but I feel like she made a dv joke at my expense.
Context: In 8th grade I use to date this boy and he would consistently put his hand on me. Now I don’t dwell on it too much bc I don’t think about it, I shoved it in the back of my mind bc I’m not sure it even counts since I was young(14). I’ve been dating her on and off for 4 years and rn we’re just friends and both 23. When we were 22, we had a deep conversation about things we regret in relationships and my #1 was letting someone put their hands on me. I told her the events that I still remember occurring my whole 8th grade year. Which insists of how he once punched me so hard I thought he dislocated my jaw bc I couldn’t open my mouth to tell him to stop bc he immediately went to choking; how we both got sent to an office for two different reasons but ended up arguing and then he took his bead bracelets off, wrapped it around his knuckles and hit me in my forehead and I started bleeding; the time he got mad I wasn’t talking to him and he squeezed my boobs and didn’t let go even after I was on the ground screaming. Then little things like how he pushed me into brick walls, snatch me up, slapped me. All of this happened outside when we were walking home(excluding the office one). I’ll admit that when I was opening up about everything I did laugh and she laughed w me but even then at the end of the conversation I remember telling her “yeah no, I’ll always draw the line at abuse. I would never let anyone else put their hands on me” idk why I was laughing when telling her the stories. I know I meant it when I said it was my biggest regret and I never wanna go through that again. I still can’t remember everything he did but ik it was way more than that but I feel like she made a dv joke at my expense.