AIO? Threw away my boyfriend's problematic football gear

So, here’s the deal. My boyfriend is a huge football (hand egg) guy. Specifically, he’s obsessed with the 49ers. I’ve made it clear since day one that I have zero interest in sports, and honestly, the whole “grown men obsessing over a ball game” thing gives me the ick. But whatever, I let him have his thing.

That was until I found out about his favorite player, Nick Bosa. If you don’t know, Bosa is not just your average MAGA bro—he was openly wearing Trump merch on national TV. I cannot even describe how disgusted I was when I found out. I tried to have an actual conversation with my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it made me to see him proudly sporting jerseys of someone who actively supports everything I stand against. He acted like he got it and even boxed up all his 49ers gear. Progress, right?

Well, turns out, he was just pretending to keep the peace. I later saw a Snapchat story from one of his other partners (poly/open relationship) of him wearing one of those jerseys when I wasn’t around. So basically, he thought he could just hide it from me rather than actually respect how I feel. That was the last straw.

Last night, after he fell asleep, I gathered all of it—jerseys, hats, whatever—loaded it into my SUV, and drove miles away before tossing it in a dumpster. Honestly, I barely remember the drive because I was so pissed, but the sense of peace I felt when I got back was unreal.

Now, I left for work this morning and my phone has been blowing up with texts from him. I haven’t even opened them yet because, frankly, I don’t want to deal with the meltdown. I know I technically “overstepped” but at the same time… was I really supposed to just tolerate blatant racism in my relationship?