AIO Not me, but my roommate thinks that my boyfriend is a red flag, because he didn’t like how our boss gave me an expensive Valentine’s Day gift. Is she right?

So, today this morning, I ended up getting a text from my boyfriend about his worries relating to our boss at work.

And while I don’t think that it’s anything too serious, my roommate happened to take a look at my phone. And she was worried about how he was behaving over a necklace that I got from my boss.

My roommate thinks that this is extremely controlling behavior, and that this is very childish behaviors for a man to be so jealous over something like a necklace. And she even thinks that he might actually be dangerous, because my boyfriend mentioned about using violence to deal with a problem. And that she thinks it would be exhausting and dangerous for me to continue dating a man like my boyfriend, especially since I’ve only dated my man for less than a month, and he’s acted “so deranged” - in her words.

I, however, disagree and think that he’s just being caring in his own way. And that, while he does have anxiety and people-pleasing issues, I think that he’s not as bad as she makes him out to be. And, if anything, I think that it’s good for him to be honest with me like this, because I want to have a proper relationship where he doesn’t have to be afraid of speaking out his mind. Especially if it’s related to his worries for me and our relationship.

I don’t know. But I’ve dated red flags before, and I honestly think that this is one of my most functional relationships so far.

Is my roommate overreacting, or is she actually right to be worried for me?

-> Also, just because Reddit only allowed me to post up to 20 pictures, I’m going to type out the last text message down here:

Me: “I’ll see you after work. Have fun at work dear.”

BF: “but again, you don’t have to. but give it some thought, okay?”

Me: “Also, relating to the necklace, we can talk more about it later after work. Okay?”

Me: “Now hurry up and get ready for work already. Alright?”

Me: “I love you.”

BF: “alright, alright.”

BF: “I love you too.”