When should you disclose your chronic pain/illness while dating?

I posted here about how I kept getting ghosted after first dates (years ago when I was dating, I just went through a breakup) because I disclosed my chronic pain/illness on the date. The way I was seeing it, I didn’t want to waste my time or their time if dating someone with health issues was a dealbreaker. I don’t have a lot of energy/spoons, and I don’t really enjoy small talk or going on dates with people who end up being ableist.

I was told in this sub that I’m disclosing too soon, and that I need to wait after I get to know them more and vice versa. How many dates should I wait to tell them? Two, three, four, etc? It just seems so exhausting and like a huge waste of my time (not to mention worsens the pain of rejection if I start to actually like someone) if they end up rejecting me anyways on the third or fourth date because they don’t want a woman who has chronic pain/illness. If my condition is a dealbreaker why should I put myself through all of that?