I don’t feel appreciated by my husband

As stated above, I don’t feel appreciated by my husband. One of his pet peeves in particular is his car. He hates for it to be messy. My car is broke down and has been for several months. I will be getting a new one soon as my current one has too many issues and we have two kids so it just makes sense for me to upgrade. I drive my husband’s car if I need it to take our kids to appointments or if we want to do something fun to just get out of the house. Anytime I drive his car I always bring any toys, bags, trash, etc inside or throw it away because I know he makes a big fuss about it. And sometimes our two kids make messes but I always try to clean up and the other day i vaccumed his entire car and took it to the car wash. Tonight he gets angry and says stuff like “it smells like shit in the house” “are you even gonna clean?” “Probably not because you were raised like that”, “when you get a new car it’s probably gonna be wrecked or trashed because you don’t take care of your stuff” and I tried talking to him on our 3 hour car ride home and he put his AirPods in and ignored me. And I clean our house every single day while he is at work. And I was not raised in a messy home. My mother cleaned every day as well. I also don’t get much help from him with the house work or our kids. So I’m really upset as to where this is coming from and this is exactly why I do not feel appreciated by him at all.