Virginity and marriage

I need advice please. As someone who was dating before becoming Christian and therefore not a virgin but since becoming a Christian 2 years ago has decided to wait until marriage to have those relations again. Is this not a fair position? I was talking to a man at my church who is not as strict religiously as me and he thinks my decision is unfair to whoever my future husband is as I am not a virgin but wanting to make my future husband husband wait months to years to have what I’ve already shared previously. I wish I could go back in time and be pure again for my future husband but I can’t change that and I’m not going to lie to him. Thanks