I don’t understand why some men in the manosphere complain that men lose a lot in a divorce but also say they don’t care about a woman’s education, job, earnings etc

I have seen time and time again guys in here rage about how divorce laws are “unfair” to men and how divorce enables women to “steal” men’s property and money. I don’t want to spend time debating whether or not divorce laws or family courts are “biased” against men, but lawyers, both in real life and on here, have pointed out that scenarios where a man is “taken to the cleaners” by an ex are more likely when the wife earns significantly less than the husband.

This makes me wonder why so many in the manosphere also hate on career women, claiming they are masculine and make bad wives or mothers. They often say that men don’t care about how much money a woman makes and that most rich men would happily marry a feminine, attractive 19-year-old waitress over a “boss babe.”

I am not here to debate anyone’s dating choices, but I find the contradiction a little strange. On one hand, many in the manosphere claim women are financial leeches on society and take everything from men in divorce. Yet, at the same time, these same men look down on or even resent women who strive for financial independence—women who would be far less likely to “destroy” a man financially in divorce.

It seems like the ideal scenario for the manosphere is for women to be “traditional”—either not working or only holding low-wage jobs but still receive absolutely nothing in the event of a divorce. That’s the only way I can reconcile these contradictions. One of the reasons we are seeing changes in how courts handle alimony, child support, and custody is because more women are financially independent, making things like alimony unnecessary except in special circumstances. I would think the manosphere would see that as a good thing, but they seemingly don’t.