A woman’s past

There has been a trend where people use “exposing sins is Haram” as means to deceive potentials into marrying them.

If you are not a virgin and he expresses his wish to marry a virgin, then you are supposed to withdraw from the marriage by making up an excuse. This way your sins are concealed and you are not deceiving anyone either.

And remember if you sin against another Human, Allah doesn’t forgive it, you will still have to compensate the other human on the day of judgement (exchange of Hasanahs).

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah رحمة الله عليه said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Whoever has wronged his brother with regard to his honour or anything else, let him seek his pardon today, before there will be no dinar or dirham (i.e., on the Day of Resurrection), when if he has any good deeds (to his credit), some of his hasanaat (good deeds) will be taken in proportion to his wrongdoing, and if he has no hasanaat then some of the sayi’aat (bad deeds) of the one whom he wronged will be taken and added to his burden.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2449).

Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Allah will gather the people” – and he gestured with his hand towards Syria – “naked, barefoot, uncircumcised, destitute.” I said: O Messenger of Allah, what is destitute? He said: “Those who have nothing with them. A caller will call out with a voice that will be heard from afar just as it will be heard from up close: I am the Sovereign, the Judge. None of the people of Paradise should enter Paradise when any of the people of Hell is seeking redress from him for having wronged him, and none of the people of Hell should enter Hell when any of the people of Paradise is seeking redress from him for having wronged him, even for a slap.” I said: How will that be redressed when we will come naked, uncircumcised, destitute? He said: “By means of hasanaat (good deeds) and sayyi’aat (bad deeds).” Narrated by Ahmad in al-Musnad (16042); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Targheeb wa’t-Tarheeb (3608).