Abusers and their obsession with purity culture?

Has anyone else noticed that abusive men have this awful obsession with virginity?

My ex called me a wh*re daily because I slept with my ex bf of two years. Said I wasn’t a high value woman and that I’m disgusting for even looking at another man.

Also, the disgust with you showing your body in any way, I feel like they would make you wear a burqa, if they could, regardless whether or not you or they were muslim.

On social media, all I see is men scrutinising women who slept with anyone, as if having sex was the biggest sin known to man. A woman’s pleasure is uncomfortable for a man to deal with, as it seems. Seems very rapey and controlling, or is it just me?

Not saying that all of these incels are abusers but it DEFINITELY reeks of it.

Were your guys’ partners so weirdly obsessed with purity culture? Yet they themselves loved having sex, but god forbid you did it with someone before them?