Question for those who had another baby soon after their loss…

Hi all, my precious daughter was stillborn a little over three months ago. I am starting to think about trying for a sibling soon, but I realized if we started trying this cycle and somehow get pregnant and have a living child, their birthdays would be within around two weeks from each other. That feels like too much and makes me want to wait at least one more cycle. But even so there’s still a (small) chance their birthdays will be close or I might be very pregnant around my daughter’s birthday. But I don’t want to wait long either, I turn 35 in a few months and I don’t know how long it will take to have a living child.

I hear from others in this sub that the grief is so intense for the whole first year (and likely longer). I know we will be grieving and honoring our baby girl for as long as we are alive, but I wonder how those of you who got pregnant quickly handled the intense grief while also being pregnant? What did you do for the birthday of the child who died? Was it complicated to grieve while pregnant or with a newborn? Did it feel like you were taking energy away from your child who died?

Thank you, and I’m so sorry we all have to go through this pain.