Second date ick?

So I (F 27) on a second date with a professional guy (m31) that I really like.

We have a great time, great conversations, he wants to continue but it’s really late. He invited me back and I said I really like you I just don’t want to move too fast and ruin things with us. He says that he understands, and that we’re just going back to spend more time together talking and such.

We get there, he kinda starts being all over me and I very kindly just told him I am a abstinent and a bit anxious. He said that’s okay and proceeded to tell me that his mom had bad experiences and always taught him how to get consent and not to push anything. We still make out here and there while spending time together. I did have to stop things a few times because it was just so overwhelming.

Towards the end we’re just cuddling (felt really weird to me doing this on a second date but???) and my hand is resting on his chest, and he says “Oh I get it now. You can touch my b**b but I can’t touch yours?”

And I was so taken aback by that comment. I didn’t say much. Am I overreacting? Or is it incredibly icky?

Note: He did not text me after I went home, and nothing this morning which I am ok with. He needs to digest my abstinence.

**Just received a text from him asking me if I woke up alright. Is he worth another chance with strict public meet ups?