I (26F) met this guy (26M) last month, but we’ve been Twitter mutuals for two years. We used to send each other memes and talk about celebrity gossip sometimes. I thought he was cute but wasn’t sure if he felt the same.

He lives in the UK, and I live in Pakistan. In late December 2024, he was visiting his family here, and we met twice. There was definitely a vibe, but we only admitted to our feelings after he left.

We’re not exclusive, but we have strong feelings for each other and talk a lot via calls and texts. Early on, I told him that if either of us ever made out or did something with someone else, we should be upfront about it. He agreed.

The Night That Changed Things

On Friday night, he went to a rave with two of his female best friends. He told me he was sharing a room with them due to money issues, which I didn’t love but let slide since we’re not exclusive. However, if we were exclusive, I would have preferred he got his own room.

After the rave, details about the night started coming out—but only bit by bit, after I kept asking. He eventually admitted that one of the girls (let’s call her X, 22F) was someone he had considered asking out before he came to Pakistan. He planned to think about it more once he returned to the UK but changed his mind after meeting me. His exact words: “I realized I liked you a lot more.”

But he never told me this from the start. He only revealed it after the night had already happened.

Then, more details trickled in:

• He said she hugs him “for too long” when they meet.
• He admitted that he put his arm around her at the club.
• He texted her that night saying he only liked me and set a boundary (sent me a screenshot for proof).
• The next morning, she responded that another guy had done something explicit with her. His response? "Glad you're having a good time." (Which felt… odd to me.)

Something didn’t sit right, so I kept asking questions. For two days, he avoided saying more until he finally admitted that while she was drunk at the hotel, he kissed her on the head to "comfort her."

Apparently, both girls also made out, and he claims he felt “disrespected” and left when I told him to.

A Pattern of Hiding Things?

This isn’t the first time he’s withheld information. He also started smoking but didn’t tell me for a whole month because he was worried I’d get the ick. On top of that, he told X that he thinks I’m more attractive than him and that maybe he doesn’t feel “good enough” for me. Her response? “You’re attractive.”

What Now?

At this point, I feel like I can’t trust anything he says because I have to dig for the truth every time. Even though we’re not exclusive, I don’t like the feeling of constantly second-guessing him. I’m pretty sure I’m going to end things, but I’d love some outside perspective.

TL;DR: Long-distance situationship. Not exclusive, but agreed to be upfront about other people. He slowly revealed that he used to consider dating one of his female friends, then shared a hotel room with her after a rave, kissed her on the head when she was drunk, and keeps revealing things only when questioned. Also hid the fact that he started smoking. Now I don’t know if I can trust him. Should I end it?